Best Love Advice

For Nanay Online’s third topic which is about the Best Love Advice, I'm not one of the best person to ask when it comes to love advices since I only had ONE boyfriend in my entire life which eventually became my husband, just like Sis Nuna and Sis Michi. ;)

 

I remember when I was in high school, I'm always tuned in to Joe D Mango’s Love Notes even though I don’t have a bf that time (hubby and I were college sweethearts, that’s why) because I want to know other people’s love stories and learn from it so I could give advice to my friend who’s in a relationship that time (well I don’t know if she consider it as an advice. what to expect from a NBSB that time? baka sabihin pa nya,ano namang alam mo sa love,aber? haha!) until I finally plunged into the relationship status 10 years ago when I enter college.

Every relationship is different, what’s applicable with us may not work out with other couple and vice versa. Hubby and I also have some fair share of misunderstandings. In our 1 month old relationship,we broke up (or should I say I broke up with him) because of some petty issues on my part,yet we both stay single,we didn't date anyone during that 1 year. He just gave me the space I need.Until we finally get back in each other's arms once again. Love is sweeter the second time around, so true. Everything is close to perfect, and then came long distance relationship blues since he need to work out of the country,yet we managed our geographically challenged relationship until he came home and we got married and the rest is history. It must have been FATE and yes, LOVE.. haha,forgive me.mushy I know!(at kelangan talaga na ganito kahaba ang intro! :D)

Here are just some of the best advices I heard from very dear people:

From one of my favorite priest in my cousin’s wedding:

“You can never be certain of your relationships because not all of them are built to last a lifetime. Both of you have to constantly nurture it so it can grow and you can grow old with it.”

I got this from my college scrapbook, I don't know where I got this but this has been my favorite quote for hubby which always works:

“Always keep in mind that trust takes years to build, but mere seconds to destroy. And then it takes you even longer to rebuild it”

Joe D’ Mango

“A relationship will always need trust and faith. Trust, so you could keep a relationship strong, and faith, so you can build a strong foundation of love that could weather all storms to make it last for as long as you wish to.”

And lastly from my parents:

“Ang pag-aasawa ay hindi kanin na isusubo na iluluwa kapag napaso.” Old advice that we’re all familiar,yet it always make sense.

Been in love with the same man for 10 ½ years and happily married for close to 3 years and counting blessed with a sweet and smart kid.oh well, this Love is FOREVER.

Nanay Online: "How does your child resemble his father"

For this week's  topic

The moment Xian is born they say that in the physical department he is my mini version, well except that he's a boy. He got my eyes, my nose, my lips, my color, my hair, just about everything. The only thing he got from his dad way back is his height because he's a big baby when he was born. Here's my little one when he's just two months old together with my baby picture.

Yessss, that's me in the picture. See? we're literally pinagbiyak na bunga at first.But wait, that was 2 years ago and we're talking about his resemblance to his father,not ME.

As the days, weeks and months pass by, the one I used to think as my mini-me is slowly transforming into his daddy's mini version not just physically but also a lot from his dad's personality. He instantly became Allan Liit (Little Allan). He definitely got his daddy's sense of humor.There's no dull moment when I'm with them, they both have this facade of a serious person if you don't know them personally,but the moment they smile and laugh, they're actually a playful duo.

Xian is also fascinated with cars and basketball, car-related stuffs excites them both. these two boys loves watching cartoons.Xian is also good in terms of his dancing skills which he obviously got from daddy.  

In terms of attitude,Xian got his dad's trait of being malambing. He loves to hug and kiss and always say "love you" as his form of affection. Ever since our college days, my husband is the type of guy who like to write simple notes and love letters for me. There was a time when he borrowed my book and when he returned it I found note/love letter inserted on it. Simple things like that,yet I find it sweet.

When people see Xian and spend time with him they often tell "Kabait naman ni Xian.mana sa ama" kakalokang comment! it doesn't mean that i'm not mabait, it's just that hubby is a lot more mabait than me.haha! He also got a chunk of kulit factor from his dad as well as his mood of being impatient sometimes.There are a lot more things which he got from his dad which really makes Xian a daddy's boy, he loves to imitate his dad.They're my life's perfect duo.

..in one of their daddy-baby moment.

in their ternong basketball jersey..

Absolutely, "Like father, like son." - Asian Proverb

Advance Happy Father's Day Hubby Love! Me and your little version love you so much! ♥

Nanay Online: “How Motherhood Changed Me”

I so love Mommy France's idea of a mommy blogger group, especially I already knew some of them through our SP community. I started blogging few months ago to chronicle my experiences as a mom, a wife, about myself and just about anything. this is really my private space online. Hence, this is a very private blog at first. no readers, just me and my blog.funny no? :) But as days (and months) goes by I started to meet other mommies online who have their blogs too and I learned a lot from their ideas and it's really nice to connect with them even though we don't know each other personally yet, we became instant cyber friends. 

No wonder this mommy blogger group makes me feel giddy,after all this is my first! So for our very first Nanay Online topic on how motherhood changed me, I'll say a lot. from the simplest thing to the most complicated one.Of course everyone of us does and we have a huge transformation after our little one is born. Cliche as it may seem but I think I became a better person after I became a mom. I'm not just thinking about myself or my husband but most importantly about our little one and we're now liable for his future.

Flashback 2 years ago,the moment hubby and I found out that I was pregnant, knowing that there's already a tiny living thing inside my flat tummy that time and the baby bump is not yet visible,instantly there's a certain indescribable feeling of maturity and motherly instinct that I felt that time. Being a mom excites me, the whole thing about it which is new to me. I always look forward to every check up, comply faithfully to my OB's advice,eat healthy foods not just for myself but for my baby, read a lot of pregnancy books, asked pregnancy-related questions to experienced mom and a lot more preps to be able to cope up as I enter this thing called motherhood.yet the moment Xian is born and sleepless nights followed (you see I'm a person who really love to sleep during my single days yet I was able to adjust after the baby is born) plus a lot of hands-on experiences from bathing to feeding him, taking good care of him, all which is very new to me,yet I became used to it because of the love I feel for the little one.

There are times when I'm at the mall to buy a certain thing for myself but the moment I pass by the children's section, I always end up buying things for the little man just because I find it cute and how about the thing I'm supposed to buy for myself? There's always a next time :) There are a lot of instances when I gave up my simple pleasures knowing that I can actually live without it. I learned to look at things in a new perspective.I became more compassionate,more grateful and appreciative,I find happiness in the most simple thing, a lot of times that I also get tired physically like everyone else does, no matter how tired I am from work the moment I saw him waiting at our door then gave me his sloppy kisses and hug, I'm re-energized. tanggal lahat ng pagod.worth it lahat.Our son unleashed the inner child in me.When you say happiness, for me and hubby, it's our XIAN.

It's been two years already since I enter motherhood. How time flies, Xian is baby no more, yet I know that I still have a long way to go and a lot of things to learn. I'm not talking as a very experienced mom, there are also times when I blame myself "that I should do this instead of doing that" my parenting style is probably different from the other moms, yet we have our primary goal which is to love and nurture our kids.

Being a mother really changed me, it gave me the opportunity to do things I thought I cannot do and I'm capable to perform. I have learned so much more about myself than I could have ever imagined.Yes, like everyone of us, I just feel so blessed to get to be on this journey, to be a mommy.